Plenty of Bunnies who are Jerks too

The other day, I was talking to a friend about Zootopia. He didn’t like it. I was like WHAT?!?!? In fact, he said it was a story that has been told time and time again and it was boring. BORING?!?! The proverbial tale that we’re all different yet the same, that there’s always more than meets the eye and change starts with me – the individual.

Ok, I do agree with that. It isn’t a new story and you do have to be careful of the wolf in sheep’s clothing. Except in Zootopia it’s the harmless cute sheep you have to keep an eye on. Yet it is a tale as achingly relevant in our 21st century as it was a hundred years, heck a thousand years ago. Kinda like how To Kill a Mockingbird can’t go out of style.

In a Trump Presidency world where fear led by ignorance creeps into every facet of our lives, I take heart that in a seemingly children’s tale like Zootopia we needed the effervescent bunny, Judy Hopps to remind us that someone can be ” a jerk who happened to be a fox. I know plenty of bunnies who are jerks.” In my last 42 years of my life, I’ve learnt that no one race, religion, gender, sexuality or age has dips on being a douche. Everyone can be a douche and if you take the time to have an open dialogue, get to know the person, you or at least I’ve come to realise that they can be as big a douchebag as I can be and in the greater scheme of things, they are capable of being kind, honest and supportive as I try to be everyday.

So I remind myself as much as I don’t like having to share this world with rude self-serving douchebags, the rest of us decent functional beings have to make the best of what we’ve got. The alternative reminds me of a sad tribe in the last season of The Walking Dead – hiding, pretending that we don’t exist as the douchebags try and take over the world. We just can’t have that and with more meaningful words of Judy Hopps,

“Real life is a little bit more complicated than a slogan on a bumper sticker. Real life is messy. We all have limitations. We all make mistakes. Which means―hey, glass half full!―we all have a lot in common. And the more we try to understand one another, the more exceptional each of us will be. But we have to try. So no matter what type of animal you are, from the biggest elephant to our first fox, I implore you: Try. Try to make the world a better place. Look inside yourself and recognize that change starts with you. It starts with me. It starts with all of us.”

That’s my theme for this week – how can I make it start with me?

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Choosing Peace and Love

Every now and then I come across something or someone making a change that I want to see in the world.  It inspires me to be the change I continually want to see happening.

If a son of a terrorist can choose peace and love, I can’t expect anything lesser of myself.

The Ability to Give

Over the Chinese New Year weekend, my dear friend , Claire and her family didn’t think twice to help a couple who needed it.  In their own words, Claire shares how each of us in our own ways can change the world we live in.

Yesterday evening while we were on our way for a CNY visit, we saw this old couple stuck by the side of Opera Estate along Siglap road. For those of you who know the area, the roads are very slopey and not at all conducive for pushing a wheelchair. We quickly stopped our car and Pann got out to help the uncle. The wheelchair was in a bad condition and was unable to be maneuvered properly. Eventually the tire gave way and Pann had to call a taxi to send the couple home. We could not stop thinking about them the whole night.

Today, we spoke to Renn and Aira and we decided to use all our Ang Pow money to buy the old couple a new wheelchair. We knew the block they were staying at but had no idea which floor nor unit. We were very lucky to be able to locate the old auntie and eventually got to the uncle. And we realised they had no relatives keeping in touch with them in their one room flat.

They were so happy and surprise to receive the present along with some Ang Pows.

This got to be one of the best days knowing that the kids were very passionate about helping others because Chinese New Year is not about receiving Ang Pows but sharing with others.

I was fortunate to be part of the CNY visit that very night and they shared the story with us before it went viral online.  We got the low down scoop on how their giving led to others giving too.  The cab driver that took Pann and the couple back didn’t charge them for the ride either.  The story even gather enough interest to be picked up by the local publications 🙂

For me, I love the fact that a simple story about giving and sharing love made its way around.  I love that it isn’t just depressing or hateful stories that run amok online.  I love that I’m blessed enough to have friends who remind me that living is about sharing, giving and filling it with moments of love.  I also love how the Year of the Horse is starting off in my world.

Surprises and Mondays

I do like surprises, good unexpected things that make me feel warm and fuzzy inside.  I chanced upon this video recently that did exactly that.

It isn’t always that you get a fairly young seemingly doofus type Hollywood character dishing out sound advice.  I now know Chris Ashton Kutcher’s parents did well by him and why despite what looks like a crazy life in Hollywood, he seems to be doing alright.  Maybe not having an entitled childhood help, no matter, it isn’t easy keeping it real in the real world much less in Hollywood so kudos to him for trying his darn-est to be better.

While he was directing his advice to teens, it’s a good reminder for the rest of us, the real old folks.  As we get older, we forget that opportunity truly comes disguised as work usually very hard work.  The being sexy part is so true and does become clearer when you get older, you realise how some people draw you to them by the sheer fact that they have big hearts and minds and not a six pack or a plunging neck line.  Lastly, yes yes yes, we fill our lives with so many moments that distract us and merely live that we’ve forgotten that we can build the lives we want.  It isn’t easy but like he said opportunity is hard work and that’s what I have this Monday morning, yet another opportunity to build the life I want 🙂  Now where’s that construction helmet of mine? *humming Bob The Builder theme song in my head*

The Scarecrow

It’s no secret that I’m a vegetarian that borders on being vegan.  The jury is still out for me when it comes to bees and honey so I can’t honestly say I’m vegan.  There are many reasons why I’m vegetarian and mostly it comes from an awareness that I didn’t have before.  When something is made clear to you, it’s kinda hard to ignore and that’s why being vegetarian hasn’t been difficult for me at all.  So when I chanced upon this campaign, I was reminded about my answer when people ask me if I’ll ever stop being vegetarian.

I’ll stop being vegetarian when I’m prepared to kill the animal I want to eat.

Yes yes yes, the FaceBook guy said this too.  For the record, I said it way before he made it popular but it’s totally possible he said it to his friends before I ever thought it.  It really doesn’t matter who said it first but I understand what he means.  Like the Game of Thrones pilot episode where Ned Stark was teaching his young son about accountability, “The man who passes the sentence should swing the sword.”

Back to the campaign, I did like Chipotle when I tried it but I’m not entirely sure they are totally fresh food served at its best.  Nonetheless, it’s a great branding exercise and will make me seek out a Chipotle the next time I’m near one so I guess it worked 🙂

One day I hope I can put my name on something like that too.

Candy Sugar Drop Reporting on Easter

It’s no April Fool’s Day joke and apparently my Easter name, that’s if you believe this:-

Besides acquiring a name that could be useful if I wanted to be … say … an exotic dancer, I had a wonderful Easter like I do every year.  It is my favourite holiday in the religious calendar, yes, even more than Christmas.  For some reason to me, it’s a tad less commercial and a very spiritual time for me.  Starting with the Easter Triduum on Maundy Thursday right through to the celebrations on Easter Sunday, it’s a time of the year I reflect a little more, listen more to my soul and remember what it is all about.

Love.

The new Pope Francis reminded us when he included for the first time ever, Muslims and women in an age old tradition – washing of the feet at the last supper.  A part of me is ashamed it took us this long and the other part swelled with pride that it is never to late to change for the better 🙂

I also love the fact that I live in a time that Christians and non-Christian alike, we all know the power of love and at the core of every good being, good intention, good thought, good deed it is love.  Some times we succeed and other times we don’t.  We just keep trying.  Every Easter, I am reminded of what Jesus said at the last supper with His apostles:-

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

John 13:34

That to me is why I love Easter and ever since I was 11, I decided even if I never remember anything else in the Bible, I will remember this one line.  I love this verse so much, it was even one of the readings at my wedding!!  I’ve come to realise, cut away everything else, the traditions, the rituals, the pomp and circumstance, the insignificant differences, we’re all the same – we just want to love and be loved.

I hope you and your family had a blessed Easter and a wonderful holiday.  May all your days be filled with memories of LOVE 🙂

bLAh bLAh bLAh

Last year, big brother Renn had his solo exhibition – Renn Lim by Renn Lim.  This year his little sister, Aira joins him and together they let music inspire them and their creations for bLAh bLAh bLAh.

In the midst of a crazy work week and after a little detour, do not confuse Tanjong Katong with Tanjong Pagar, I made it in time for their opening night!!

Part of the charm of the night was the kids.  Anyone who knows me, knows I’m a sucker for little people.  When you put a bunch of them in one space and I’m a happy camper 🙂

 The littlest of them all was dear Lucy who gave me a big wave when I first saw her on the way to the bathroom.  She was inspired enough to do a little drawing herself.  Potted around and climbed up next to Shell all on her own.  She even had, what I suspect is a first date 😉

If your mothers are standing by and watching, is it still considered a first date?

Even with the kids around, I managed to find my favourite pieces for the night.  I’m amazed how much Renn has grown as an artist.

You can see the improvement on his skills and the maturity of his vision.  He may not eventually choose to be an artist as a career but he’ll always be an artist in his heart.  Sure, he’s a kid and for now, given a choice will choose the iPad over his brushes but when you see the world like he does, whether it’s a wacom stylus, a traditional paint brush or just imagination, it’s a little more fun to navigate 🙂

His 6 year old sister impressed me too!!  We always knew she had a flair for the dramatics and may possibly be a pop icon in her own time but now we know she can control a pencil  and yields it to no one.

I had such a blast that I brought my munchkins back on another night.

I love that I can bring them to an art gallery where they get to see their friends, hang out and get to learn about art too.  I think they were all mostly having fun playing in an art gallery, which doesn’t always happen for them :p  While the big ones hung out and chased each other around.  Little Rach was inspired and chose to keep herself busy being an artist herself.

One of Aira’s classmate came by while we were there too and guess what? Lo and behold, she shares the same birthday as Aira and Mabes!!

They are no means the same but have a similar energy and a penchant for dramatics 🙂  You just might be looking at the first picture of Singapore’s girl group hit!!  We can call them July 17 :p  Ok ok ok, as a bias aunt I can get carried away.  They all had so much fun hanging out that my munchkins asked when were the next time we’ll be seeing R+A again 🙂

I live for moments like these.

Well done R+A!!  Your diligence and talents to make bLAh bLAh bLAh possible are rare and inspire me to get my own film done.  Thank you both so much and congratulations on a wonderful exhibition!!