I wonder if anyone pays attention to Earth Day anymore or if they ever did. I remember when recycling was the thing to do and now everyone talks about upcycling. For me, it’s all about trying to simplify. It wasn’t always like that. I’m as much a consumer as anyone else and I’m not sure when but one day I did realise there are a lot of things I have that I don’t really need. Just a lot of things I want. Then came the harsh realisation that if I didn’t buy all the things I wanted … I could probably have had a down payment for my dream car.
It was about 5 years or so ago when I was walking around Beijing with my then boss and asked him if he wanted to buy his wife something. He began to tell me how he and his wife have come to an agreement that they only bought things they needed and if they came home with a purchase of something they already had, they had to get rid of the old item that needed to be replaced by the new purchase. Like a light bulb that went off in my head, I thought to myself I like that and I’ll try it out.
Fast forward to 2017 and I’ve mostly stuck to that rule. Couple of things I’ve learnt:-
- I never ever have to buy bags. My family and friends always seem to get me bags and I never run out of them.
- White pieces of clothes are the ones I replace the most. Maybe I should invest in a bib. Everything else seem to last. Again family and friends have me covered on that front too.
- I don’t ever buy pyjamas anymore because I just recycle/upcycle older clothes to chic sleepwear 🙂
- I spend a lot of money on FOOD. Being vegetarian is not the most cost efficient. Add organic and that’s the bulk of my budget.
- I like spending money on people I love. I don’t consume much for myself anymore but I do like buying things or experiences (especially when it’s shared with me) for my family and friends.
So I haven’t quite saved enough for my dream car but I’ve figured out that I don’t really need it anyway. On this Earth Day like every other one, I smile a little, give thanks that I’m blessed with amazing people in my life. We’re not perfect but we’re there for each other. I couldn’t ask for more and this week, my theme is more of the same – remind the people I love that I love them!
Do you believe in fate? That things are meant to be? Couple of weeks ago, I gave up my Coldplay ticket in Singapore to a friend. No fuss, I did want to go but he wanted it more for someone else and asked. I said ok and I was actually ok. Though I do like Coldplay and would have liked to go and see them. Fast forward to April 7, I arrive in Bangkok for a weekend getaway with a couple of friends and guess what I find out? Coldplay is playing in Bangkok on April 7! So I went, if we could find reasonable tickets, we’ll go and we did!
After a crazy ordeal of collecting our tickets, which we weren’t sure were legit or not till we were seated in the stadium, and navigating to the venue on foot, we got there just in time for them to come on stage and start the show. I’m definitely a fan of the earlier albums, the first one in particular but it was still a very enjoyable show with the band coming across sincere and like they were genuinely having fun. More than that, I got to share the concert with one of my dearest mates who isn’t my typical concert buddy but I think that will change now. So do you believe that some things are just #meanttobe? I’m already sold on the concept … though a very logical part of me fights it a lot. Getting to watch Coldplay in Bangkok with Resh was just meant to be.
Honestly, I couldn’t imagine going through the ordeal of navigating traffic, taking trains when there’s no cabs, walking and walking and walking, waiting an hour for a cab that on the app said was only 9mins away with someone who wouldn’t call it quits and brought out the best in me despite the highly stressful situation. It open a side of each other we already knew but I guess with this experience solidified the fact that we do complement each other in the way lifetime friendships are built. That’s why I had to give up my Singapore ticket and come to Bangkok to watch Coldplay instead.
In the greater scheme of things, there is a plan, reasons for why things happen or who comes into your life. Even the bad stuff, there is a reason. Someone out there makes it all happen, someone bigger, someone who knows more, someone who has a plan. My role is to surrender and trust. To be grateful. To keep an open mind. I don’t have to understand when it happens but it’ll eventually be made clear. Like with the Coldplay concert, I get why I had to give up my Singapore ticket so easily. I was meant to go, just in a different city with a different friend 🙂 And possibly start a new tradition!
Here’s to things that are meant to be! Just let go and trust is my theme for the week.
6 months more to go and I’ll be yelling, “Hello 40!!” Still a work-in-progress and with half of the year gone, it’s clearer today that honestly all you need to get through mistakes you’ve made is a sense of humour and time. I always say this that I’m really lucky with my family and friends. At this stage in life, I’ve come to realise there are toxic friends and in some sad cases, there are toxic family too. You owe it to yourself to rid all toxic relationships. It’s hard, very hard but filling our life with love and positive support gets you through any problem. Lucky me, all the love I’ve surrounded myself with over the last 39 and a half year has reaffirmed how a sense of humour is the key to getting over suffering. Also why I married my husband because he can make me laugh.
6 more months before I turn 40 and to usher that in, I’m off to Bali with my wonderful friends who’ve shared their love, laughter and pain. All of whom will turn 40 before me and showed me that age is truly just a number and laughing over spilled milk is the best way to get over it.
I love lunch time dates!! They give me a break in the work day and make me smile like no other things can. So when Raewyn’s Mum asked me over for lunch, I jumped at the chance.
I had such a blast with Raewyn that I can’t wait for the next date. The last time I saw her was at her one month.
The picture on the left is from her party and the picture on the right is from today 🙂 Look how she’s grown and into a real sweetie too. She let me cuddle her, play with her, we even made funny faces together and let me take numerous pictures of her. Isn’t she such a sweetheart?
It’s really easy to see why too. Her Mummy, Tess is one of the gentlest soul I know. I can’t wait to see this little one grow up into the fine lady I know she’ll become. Till then, I can’t wait for our next lunch date little one 🙂
The last time I caught up over lunch with this little young’un was nearly a year and a half ago. That’s pretty much half her lifetime. Though I’ve seen her since then, namely during her Godma’s wedding and prep, it’s a long over due lunch date :p
She’s a little girl who’s a big sister now. Just about 2 weeks ago, she welcomed her baby sister Mikayla into this great big world. I love little sister pairing. Guess I’m kinda bias because I’m one half of a sister pair. Back to the Belle. She may look like her Dad but she’s definitely got her aunt/Godma’s gene strong in her too.
Over lunch, her Godma and my dear friend, Gen said to me, “It’s like I gave birth to her.” I totally get it, this pseudo parenting that is slowly but surely getting more and more popular. We don’t actually carry the babies and don’t fully adopt them but the love and connection is just as strong. Here’s when I realise the saying that it takes a village to raise a child, makes so much sense. Nothing replaces the bond a parent has with their child, it gives every child the fundamentals that they need and why good parenting is so damn important. Aunts, uncles, grandparents, godparents, teachers, mentors, adult friends, they all play different roles that fill these children’s wells with more love, support, life lessons, guidance, direction and examples that they can reach into when life gets tough. And life will get tough but they’ll keep learning from us. Just like how we’re better from our parents’ generation, they will be better than us.
There is much hope for the world so have a happy Monday everyone as I take another shower to cool off from this humid heat in Singapore.
Unless something happens directly to me, I hardly ever get the complete story of anything that happens to anyone else. In fact, everything that happens to me is only from my perspective and again, it isn’t quite the complete story. Even in my memory, there’s always bits and pieces that go missing or get embellished, much less when you’re try to get the whole picture of a situation that happened to someone else.
I’m talking about the hullabaloo surrounding Woody Allen and the lifetime achievement award that he received earlier this year. It’s just another reminder not to make quick judgements, especially with people I don’t know jack about.
If you are friends of his ex-wife and daughter, you’d believe he’s the monster from their side of the story.
If you’re his friends and family, you’ll believe this side and know he’s been severely misunderstood.
Which brings me to the point of my post. I actually thought that by the time I’m a year shy of turning 40, I’d have figured it all out. I actually thought I did until a recent exchange between friends that made me realise you never know who is telling you the truth and what is the truth anyway. Made me dig deep and question my own bullshit barometer on myself. I can’t tell if other people are telling the truth but I sure as hell can learn to be honest with myself. Till this day, the hardest thing I’ve had to learn and am still learning to do.
At the end of the day, that’s all that matters, right? Not what other people think of you, just what you know of yourself. I wonder if Woody Allen has a hard time walking down the street because people he doesn’t know and some so called friends judge him for a monster. I sure it smarts that people think less of you but if you are honest and know who you are, the sting doesn’t last very long.
That’s what I’m learning anyway. Maybe this time next year, I’d think differently 🙂 Who knows? For now, I’m grateful for all growing older brings.
That pretty much sums up the day I turned 39.
Nothing over the top. Kept today simple. Got some work in, made time to check out the River Safari, dinner at my favourite vegetarian place in Chinatown, caught The Lego Movie and wrapped the day with the latest episode of The Walking Dead. Pretty much all the things I enjoy squeezed into a day and I really couldn’t ask for more.
As the lyrics of my latest favourite tune goes:-
Everything is awesome
Everything is cool when you’re part of a team
Everything is awesome, when we’re living our dream
Nothing like a birthday to remind you of the support system you have. When it comes to that department, I’m so very blessed with the team I’m a part of. I know I’m nowhere and no one without the love of my family and friends. If today is anything to go by, my 39th year looks like it’ll be a lot like most of my other years. There will be ups and also downs but more importantly, more dreams to be had. That’s how you keep it AWESOME.
Did I already say I love birthdays 🙂