I stumbled on an article that made me reflect about how I live my life – 10 Things That The People Who Love Their Lives Are Doing Differently. I’ve met people like those mentioned in the article and they’ve all inspired me to lead a live that I love. The first thing that ever made me realise that’s how I should lead my life is a poem by Mother Theresa:-
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough.
Give the best you’ve got anyway.
in the final analysis it is between you and God;
it was never between you and them anyway.
6 months more to go and I’ll be yelling, “Hello 40!!” Still a work-in-progress and with half of the year gone, it’s clearer today that honestly all you need to get through mistakes you’ve made is a sense of humour and time. I always say this that I’m really lucky with my family and friends. At this stage in life, I’ve come to realise there are toxic friends and in some sad cases, there are toxic family too. You owe it to yourself to rid all toxic relationships. It’s hard, very hard but filling our life with love and positive support gets you through any problem. Lucky me, all the love I’ve surrounded myself with over the last 39 and a half year has reaffirmed how a sense of humour is the key to getting over suffering. Also why I married my husband because he can make me laugh.
6 more months before I turn 40 and to usher that in, I’m off to Bali with my wonderful friends who’ve shared their love, laughter and pain. All of whom will turn 40 before me and showed me that age is truly just a number and laughing over spilled milk is the best way to get over it.
By most standards, I’m really really blessed. Sure, I don’t get everything I want and that I believe keeps me humble and grateful. For the most part, I’ve been given gifts that I don’t even realise I need. One such gift is having 2 others places to call home in Perth and Vancouver. 2 beautiful cities in the world where I get to soak up all the nature I never knew I needed … even craved.
Our annual jaunt back to Vancouver saw me jump in a lake for the first time in my life and LOVING it. It was like I could swim forever and not come up.
Evans Lake where my brother-in-law had a lovely forest wedding was also where I became a lake swimming virgin no more 🙂 The cold of the lake surprised me more than I expected but much more than that was how I felt like I could just go on swimming and swimming and swimming. The water felt crystal clean. I could never touch the bottom of the lake no matter how long I tried to hold my breath. If not, for the wedding happening in the afternoon, I don’t think I would have left. Yes, it did cross my mind to ask them to move the wedding party to the dock by the lake. That was early in my trip and I hadn’t really thought much about how much stronger I felt leaving the lake than jumping into it.
Whyte Lake was the second lake I went swimming in. My brother-in-law couldn’t believe that I’ve never swam in a lake before his wedding, he kinda made it his mission to expand my lake swimming repertoire. So we did the Whtye Lake trail which leads you to the lake where you’re rewarded with a swim 🙂 This little hike and swim made me realised how much my body sucks up the energy from nature. I felt winded doing the trail to the lake but after being among the amazing Douglas Fir trees and the swim, I had an unusual second wind. It was like my body was fed and ready to go. I started being aware of my surroundings and how it affected me. Particularly how light I feel after being out in nature.
Growing up in Singapore, we aren’t naturally inclined to the outdoors. It’s hot and humid most days and nature isn’t quite like it is in these other countries. So we actually don’t know how much we get from nature, we simply never had the opportunity to find out.
And here’s the point of this post, growing up the concept of soul was a religious one. On the way to the mid point of my life, I’ve learnt to read my soul better, to know it’s the source of why I can do good and be better. When my soul is weak, temptations are easier to fall into, vices appear normal and I don’t yearn to try as hard to be the best version of me. When my soul is fed, I am lighter even when things don’t go my way, when I don’t get what I want and the most negative of energies comes across like an annoying mosquito. The question now is how do I keep feeding my soul in this concrete jungle of a home?
5 years ago today, after work I rushed to Gleneagles Hospital to meet my first little Goddaughter except she was in NICU and had to be there for about 48hours. It was a little worrying at first but now that’s all in the past and she turns 5 this year.
Time seems to be flying us by and to be perfectly honest I’m not quite prepared for her turn 5. Here’s how much I’m not. When I was wrapping her present and her sister’s belated one, I wrote the right age for her sister, 8 and I know jolly well she’s only 3 years younger than her sister which makes her 5 but I wrote “Happy 4th Birthday”. When I collected her cake, I told the bakery I only needed 4 candles. During the party and the girls were opening their presents I realised the mistake I did. Yet when we were putting her candles on, I was going to put only 4 again till her 8 year old sister asked if I was alright and gave me a quizzical look like I’m losing my mind.
Yes, my baby Rachael, I’m not quite ready for you to grow up but grow up you so shall be doing. One day, you’ll be 12, then 18, 21 and heaven forbid 30 and I’ll still treat you like my little one 🙂 Meanwhile, I’m enjoying 5 year old you. You have this sense of humour that is pretty much like your Godpa. You’re still super shy outside the house with strangers but a bundle of laughs when you’re all comfortable. With your little Godsister, Caitlin, you’re the wonderful Cheachea (big sister). I’m loving the connection we have and want to stretch your creative capabilities. Thank you for always sharing how you see the world with me. I live for your hugs and laughter that seem to make the world’s problems disappear. Love you SO MUCH!!