I guess it’s a perennial question, can boys and girls be just friends? For as long as I can remember, I’ve had boy friends who were just that friends. Even though I could possibly see them as somewhat attractive, to me they’re just not my type, missing that certain je ne sai quoi that spoke to mine … of course, I’ve had friends who I thought did have that and if they were available, they soon became boyfriends … if not, I would tell them we can’t hang out … to me, that’s not the fundamentals of a healthy friendship.
I’m sure not everyone agrees with me and there are times I agree with them because I’ve had toxic friends who despite me not wanting an unhealthy friendship, wanted their cake and eat it. Here’s my favourite bit about getting older, you become a lot more comfortable in your skin so much so, you smell a toxic ‘friend’ from a mile away and in your 30something brain, you know it ain’t worth it. And I’ve had to dump a few.
In my soon-to-be mid-thirties, I’m happy to report that I do have a number of boy friends who I can talk to for hours on end, laugh about the gross-est things, get an objective view about how some men see the world and more than that, enjoy the more boy things some of my girl friends just don’t get, like how well a Transformer toy is made. These are men I hope, if I ever have sons grow up to be and just like my husband, they all have a good heart 🙂
Hmmm … come to think of it, that pretty much describe my good girl friends too, I’m so blessed to be surrounded with friends that have good hearts 🙂