To My 21 Year Old Self

I was reading What I know Now: Letters to my Younger Self and it inspired me to think about what I would say if I did write to my younger self. Since I turned 34 yesterday, I thought it apt that I try this exercise out. So given a choice, I’d pick the time I’m about to turn 21, that’s the year I reckon I was going through a quarter life crisis.

Dear Carlene,

I know you’re wishing you could find a crystal ball that’ll tell you exactly what to do and show you that there’s nothing to fear about the future. But what’s the fun in that 🙂

Thanks to our parents, you actually have a good head screwed on pretty tight and here’s me, letting you know everything will actually turn out ok … maybe even better than ok.

Just in case, you do find this letter, here’s my advice. Watch that ego. It’ll be a number of years before you actually understand it but truly there are more important things in life than being right and and and … who’s to say, you ARE right anyway? Truth isn’t black and white and everyone’s version is honest as the next.

Which brings me to this, learn to be honest with yourself. This is probably one of the hardest lesson you’ll have to learn. Expectations from others are always going to be there but if you can’t be honest with yourself, you’ll be one of those deluded people you’re always complaining about.

With that I hope you enjoy turning 21, remember to always make time for the important people in your life and like Daddy and Mummy once advised, “When you deal with yourself, use your head.  When dealing with others, use your heart.”  It’s your family and friends that will make the difference in your life.

And one more thing, be grateful for your problems … it can always be worse 🙂

Still Learning,

P/S: You will find the man who inspires you and makes you laugh on a daily basis.  He just isn’t the one you’re dating right now.  I did say it will get better 🙂  Enjoy!

This is me writing before I left for India so I’m actually not sure what I’m thinking the day after I turn 34.  If I have it down in a journal, I’ll post it up when I get back.

Meanwhile, to Steve Jobs, Nigel Hogan, Lim Linli and all you other 24th of Feb babies, hope you had a good one!!!

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